The medical dictionary defines addiction as “ a persistent, compulsive dependence on a behavior or substance.” You may think addiction is limited to food, drugs or alcohol, but it can also be to a behavior or a habit that you just can’t let go of.
Fear is a powerful emotion. It’s intended to be a warning sign to support our survival on Earth. Back in the day, the fear response helped man run away from bear. These days, fear isn’t being used as for original intention, which is a positive, to help us survive. Fear now has been created as a daily ritual and reality in people’s lives. The message is “the world is a dangerous place” and it hooks people’s minds into believing that if they aren’t aware of every horrible thing that’s happening on our planet, then they will somehow be in danger. Just like other addictions, fear slowly begins to destroy trust.
The addiction to fear involves the nervous system and fight or flight response. It is possible for the body to get hooked on the “high” stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline provide. These stress hormones can be powerful enough for a parent to lift a car to save his or her trapped child. But what happens when you’re not using these hormones for emergency situations? You begin to get addicted to the high without a real threat present. Similar to a person who gets addicted to painkillers long after the pain has gone.
You can use the following twenty-one questions to discover whether you may be addicted to fear.
1. Do you feel compelled to read the news every day and feel drawn to the fear-based reports?
2. Do you often worry about what you’ve read or heard, even if it doesn’t relate to you?
3. Do you often worry that something bad will happen to you or a loved one that’s out of your control?
4. Do you keep the blinds closed, windows shut and double check locks when you’re home?
5. Do you often imagine the worst?
6. Do you feel a physical response to your fearful thoughts such as tingling, pins and needles, numbing, heart racing, trembling, dry throat or hot/cold flashes?
7. Do you focus on the negative of a situation and believe that you’re powerless over really changing anything?
8. When someone shares good news with you, do you find yourself feeling envious, jealous, angry or depressed?
9. Do you enjoy watching scary movies or violent TV dramas?
10. Do you often worry that people are thinking negatively of you, judging you or won’t like or accept you?
11. Do you feel failure so you won’t even try?
12. Do you avoid seeing a doctor because you’re worried you’ll get bad news or may even be sick or dying?
13. Do you fear that there’s something wrong with you and avoid reaching out getting support?
14. Do you have flashes of worse case scenarios running through your mind at random times like when driving, relaxing at home or when loved ones share things with you?
15. Do you fear you’ll be homeless, starve, will lose your job or some other security/financial fear even though every month your needs are presently met?
16. Do you find it hard to truly embrace feelings of safety and happiness, always feeling cautioned to prepare for when “the other shoe will drop”?
17. Do you often have nightmares?
18. Do you often have panic attacks? And have you ever feared that it was a heart attack?
19. Do you believe that if bad things happened in the past they are likely to repeat themselves even if you were to do things differently in the present?
20. Do you often imagine natural disasters?
21. Do you worry that you will lose a loved one unexpectedly?
If you answered yes to several of these questions, you may be addicted to fear. Like any addiction, the best way to heal it is to change your thoughts and behavior. Street smarts and premonition aside, if your brain is signaling off fear on a daily basis like loose, live wires, this constant jolt of negativity can take a toll on your health and well-being. Unless fear is being used for it’s natural purpose: in an emergency situation or to save your life, it needs to be dropped like a bad habit from your daily routine.
Surrender the need to get the high fears gives you, and instead begin to practice positive habits that give you a healthier high: feelings of bliss and true relaxation. Positive affirmations, uplifting music, yoga, prayer, meditation and other forms of mind/body exercises can help you gain control over your mind again and start producing health-enhancing thoughts and behaviors that allow you to see, and experience, the peace, love and beauty that’s all around you.
Please note: if you’ve experienced a traumatic or disturbing event at any point in your life, a qualified health care professional can help you heal. Do not assume time heals all. Self-care, not denial, is the true healer.
©2012 Lauralyn Harter
Lauralyn is a yoga, reiki and angel therapist® specializing in holistic healing and spiritual mentoring. She is currently providing yoga to the wounded warriors at Fort Bragg in North Carolina.