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The Nature of Conflict (part four)

September 6th, 2010

The nature of conflict is constriction. Constriction is tightening and resistance. It is felt by you on all levels when it arises in your life. What you need to discern is the nature of the conflict, and then you can again begin to move freely.

When there appears to be a situation that is undesirable or uncomfortable, something that doesn’t match up with that ‘feel good’ place of your truth, then something in you forms a knot. The idea of conflict presents the idea of confrontation. It is in our nature to fix, or alleviate, what is causing us pain. And so we feel, when we have been wronged, that we must ‘make right’ by correcting another.

For most of us, the idea of confrontation is uneasy. It represents battle and we would rather lean towards peace. Our outer conflict becomes ever-more internal then, as our minds rally for justice and our hearts long for subtler pacification. We want to stand up for our selves when we’ve been wronged and we feel the need to give voice to our indignation. But the idea of creating more tension within the situation and the possibility of abandon keeps us immobilized and therefore even more split in the context of peace. It is here that many become lost in their heads and tormented by ghosts of past ill-fated relationship conflicts and paralyzed by the oh-so-real-seeming drama of played out possibilities to come.

It can be difficult to discern from which the pain is greater. Is it conflict within the relationship that’s bringing you more pain or is it the division that’s been created within you?

When we find ourselves lost in the ‘solution’, eagerly trying to dampen the unrest, it’s an excellent time to withdraw from the situation, withdraw from our own heads, and find our place of center. No right outcome will transpire from a place of disconnect. When you have lost your center, you have become disconnected from Source. Only from a place of peace can you derive balance and a satisfying outcome.

It’s important to ask yourself if the relationship is reflecting your own polarity. Do your values match up with the way that you allow others to treat you? Are your outer relationships reflecting what’s within? How true are you to you?

Ultimately, it is up to you to show others how to treat you. If you feel like you’ve been wronged, perhaps it’s a mirror of where you’re not in right relationship with yourself. That foundation, that cornerstone of you loving you, you honoring Truth, is where all relationships are based. So ask your self if what you’re seeing in a relationship isn’t lacking because you haven’t laid the ground for it to be so. If you’re not being respected, where have you allowed those boundaries to become slack, and what do you need to do to strengthen? If you’re not feeling that a relationship is positive, how are you contributing to it’s imbalance? Where does your foundation lie, and how are you initiating it in your world?

There is a time for confrontation and exercising our Truth with voice, but when you wish to operate from solid ground you must reflect on the ground you stand. Is this possibly an opportunity to become stronger in you and allow that strength to ripple out into your world, into your relationships, into your outcomes?

When you become solid in you, you regain clarity and composure and confrontation can be filtered into communication of Truth. When you become realigned with your Self and pay allegiance, how you choose to handle a situation becomes an act of peace, as your intention is to end the conflict within.

In this state of Being, all outcomes become irrelevant other than the ultimate of being true to you. And in the end, you are left with exactly what you need, because the other will either choose to align or will easily fall away, leaving you with matches to your truth, rather than uncomfortable fits.

As you stand in integrity and authenticity becomes your guide, you will find the like that attracts like and you will see that compatibility is much more pleasant when it springs from truth.

Honoring you,
Rhonda
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Flowing in Grace; Transcending Obstacles (part three)

September 5th, 2010

If a thing’s purpose has expired- if an experience or a soul has played its part in our lives and it is time for the relationship to end, how do we let go with grace?

A relationship, or the container that held the space for a lesson or experience to unfold, has served its purpose, yet we find ourselves grieving at the thought of letting go. It’s important to remember that we are all still ever-connected, so it’s not necessarily a separation from another soul, but rather an honoring, or an allowing, of what is. The principals of birth and death apply to relationship, and when we can come to terms with the inevitable process of life, and apply it to all things, we can come to a place of reverence that will allow us to see things from the higher perspective of grace.

Grace removes the blocks of flow. Flow is the course to follow when you wish to live your life with ease. There is comfort in ease, and meaning. Ease means you’ve arrived. And arrival is what you’ve been waiting for.

Now is the perfect time to assume the stance of follower of your heart. Grace is the place where miracles unfold. We’ve waited for the time of miracles abound. We’ve undergone slow and tumultuous changes in order to stand in a place where desire is akin to life experience. All that has ever stood in the way is you-or your perception of you based on what you’ve been told.

Be bold. The time to live by anyone elses rules has expired. Have no fear in making decisions in moving forward, for your heart won’t steer you wrong. It knows good from bad and right from wrong and it’s one-hundred percent aligned with your greatest good. And goodness is what you’re here to achieve- unscathed by the diplomacy of doubt or guilt and unhindered by the encumbrance of greed for the need to be accepted. Accept yourself, first and foremost. It is you that must spread the love to the you that has been seeking. Seek no more.~ It is within. Transcend the inner critic who mirrors the world abroad and embrace the portal of compassion that is ever flowing to you and only waiting for you to receive. Believe in the you that is waiting~in the you that wants to unfold. For you are the greatest potential and your story waits to be told.

Be there with you in the moment. Be true to you each day. Be kind to yourself when you’d rather be cruel. And be the love that you wish to receive. It is from this place, this way of being that you will begin to walk in grace and your life will begin to flow. It is from this relationship with your self that your perspective will become higher grounded.

All relationships offer us gifts and opportunities, lessons and experiences. Not all relationships are meant to last forever. We are humbled into a place of non-attachment when we walk in grace, when we live from our truth, when we allow for the path to unfold and the pieces to crumble so that we can be built anew. Be grateful for those who have blessed your life and be honest with yourself when it is time to move on. In the state of allowing that is grace, nothing is lost, but our need to hold on. As you learn to open your arms to what is and open your hearts to what’s becoming new, you will see that endings are only openings for what’s waiting and a chance to smile at what you’ve been blessed with through the experience now saying goodbye.

You are choosing higher now. Allow your choices to reflect your greatest desires and honor your truth. When it is time to move on, you will know. Know that. And know that the act of honoring you is the greatest thing you can do. There is nothing selfish about loving you, it only might feel a little foreign to put yourself first for a change. In allowing an ending to end, you are aligning with the divine order of all that is moving in the direction of exactly where you need to be.

Listen closely and be still, as your heart shows you the way.
As you find grace, you will find that it is one of the most powerful, and profound, forces in the Universe, and an imaculate tool for living on purpose.

Blessings abound!

Rhonda
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Soothing You; Growing Pain Salves (part two)

September 4th, 2010

There is comfort in knowing that there is purpose to a thing. When we choose to believe that people and experiences are in our lives, or are exiting, for a reason, then we can derive meaning from it. Even if we don’t yet know what that meaning is, the sense of knowing can bring us grace for what it is we behold. If your experience is less than optimal, you can gather strength in knowing it has meaning. The same can be true for finding purpose in relationships that may be faltering..

We have a tendency to run from pain. It’s our nature. But if we face the pain and see what it’s teaching us, we become more effective at navigating through our lives and no longer ruled by what is bringing us discomfort. When we step away from the emotion of what’s happening, we become objective. And from here, we can obtain a clearer view of the truth.

We really do want the whole picture anyway. That’s why we get caught in our heads trying to unscramble what’s happening in our lives. The trouble is, from that vantage point, we just can’t get the entire view. We can’t know all of the why’s and what’s and how-come’s of everything. Such is the mystery of life. And would we really want to know anyway~ don’t we have enough information crammed up there in that head of ours already? The why’s and what’s are just details, just aspects of the entire picture being painted. But the meaning we truly seek is far more expansive. It involves a knowing on so many more levels. IT involves a grander scope that doesn’t always unfold in the time frame we try to place on it.

Here is where we can learn to soften to what is attempting to unfold, and what will , in fact unfold, with or without our consent. But when we become aware of what the experience is whispering to us, we let IT tell us the story, rather that allowing our minds to scamper around trying to figure it out.

Here we become one with our experience, rather than lost in our resistance to or confusion about what is. When we become unattached to what the meaning must be or to the need to know the meaning instantly, we allow for the experience to breathe, and for ourselves to be fully in it, even when it may seem to be causing us pain.

Pain is a teacher. And so you must ask, rather than give juristiction to it, what it is your painful experience is teaching you. This is a soul-level question, and soul-level questions can’t be timed. They are questions we ask with our hearts, and their answers find their way to us when we are most ready to receive them.

If, in allowing the process you believe, the unfolding of meaning can be a beautiful thing.

Remember to breathe and to soften as your life unfolds around you. Even when it feels like everything is falling apart or away, or aspects that have mattered deeply to you are now distancing themselves. Know that there is a great plan at hand, and that on a soul level, all is perfectly divine and in order.

All in love,
Rhonda
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Are You Moving Freely in Your Experience? part one

September 3rd, 2010

There’s a lot to be learned from what our experiences are teaching us.

Conflict in relationships teaches us about boundaries. It’s a wonderful time to redefine what’s important to you; ie values-what really matters to you, what you stand for, and if and where those lines are being crossed. We tend to give away our power and give into situation that may not be serving our greatest when, on some level, our needs are being met. Conflict in a relationship is a reflection of conflict within you when you are paying membership dues to something or someone you have outgrown.

The concept of ‘outgrown’ becomes confusing due to the sense of loyalty to another or a thing. We feel some sense of uneasiness in the notion of growing beyond, or becoming more than what we’ve given ourselves to. But ‘outgrown’ simply means that something no longer fits. When we continually grow and expand, we are bound to outsize what previously may have worked in our lives. And though we may find ourselves attached to what’s no longer fitting, it’s essential to our growth to honor that part of us that’s saying ‘But that’s not me anymore’. That part of you that’s resisting ‘what is’ is reaching for ‘what can be’ when you open more fully to the greatness of who you are.

The nature of expansion is to have room to move freely. Are you moving freely in your experience of life or do you find yourself constricted by what’s playing out for you at this time?

The conflict is simply you needing to honor you-so it’s you creating discomfort so that you will pay attention to what you truly desire and what’s not being honored. With this perspective, reevaluate where in your life you are being asked to be able to move freely, to move authentically, and to take a look at the ways you’re not.

Do you feel that you can exercise your true beliefs and feelings in your relationships? Do you feel that you are completely free to be you? And if not, are you sensing the discomfort arising? Because if you do, that’s your Self’s way of telling you it needs to be true. And at some point in our development, it becomes too painful to remain in what doesn’t fit.

It’s really a simple process of evolution-take the cocoon example- But somehow in our human minds we take on the obligation to what’s been and find it difficult to stretch into the new. It’s important at this point to allow yourself to detach from whatever’s causing you angst. Because as long as you remain, you will be impending your inner desire to grow.

And remember that as you expand into a place of honoring your truth and following your heart that the rules in your head no longer apply. Take back your power. YOU know what’s best for you (and that part of you is reminding you). YOU decide which direction you’ll go. And when you’re confused, you can base it on two things.

1) What your heart’s telling you to pay attention to (that GPS)
2) What’s playing out in your experience

This is the ultimate of going with the flow. Where is the flow directing you? What is it teaching you and telling you? Everything in this process really can become so organic when we simply listen and become aware of what’s teaching us and what it has to tell without all the hupla in our heads, but simply as an observer.

(There’s a definite theme of ‘simply’ in this note. I believe Spirit is really trying to get us to break it down to what’s simple and live from that place.)

So, as an observer, we can notice and we can allow. And when it seems too tough to allow, we can then surrender. When you find yourself in conflict in a relationship, simply ask that those that need to remain in your life and are for your greatest good stay, and those who don’t, be removed. It really takes the guess-work out of it and allows you to remain in a place of continuing to observe and honor who you are in truth by paying heed to what your heart is telling you.

Here’s to moving freely and living wisely.

In love of life,
Rhonda
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