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Inspiration for inner peace and love by Lauralyn, a yoga and angel therapist.

3 Steps To Mindful Decision Making

September 17th, 2011

Providing hundreds of intuitive readings, and living through my own life challenges, one thing has become clear: the quickest way to feel at peace is to live in the present. Especially when it comes to decision making.

Step One: What feels like the healthiest option right now?

Clients consult me with decision making all the time. I consult their angels to help them. My clients are about to make some major decisions regarding love, work or finances and they want to receive intuitive feedback to help support their decision making process. I’ve seen that what usually causes the most stress regarding decision-making is when people revert to the past, or project into the future. For example, someone may ask me, should I move on with this person or break up with them? This is a pretty big decision. The sensitive people who contact me put a lot of thought into what would be best for all, and as we’ve seen, the angels always guide people to do what’s healthiest for all involved. That doesn’t always mean it’s what’s easiest, but a healthful decision will eventually bring peace of mind.

Step Two: Recognizing where your mind is going

Projecting into the future: what if I marry this person and we get divorced? And then my finances will be a mess. And I’ll have to change my name on all my documents again. And it will be awkward with the in-laws. Then I’ll have to tell my friends. What if I get hurt? What if I get divorced and feel embarrassed I ever married him in the first place? What if it just doesn’t work out?

The mind will go down any worry door that creaks open when it tries to predict the worst-case scenario of a decision such as, should I marry this person? So many fears can be created that you may never walk down the aisle out of sheer anxiety.

Or the mind will go back to the past: I loved before and lost. I got hurt. Why should I put myself through that again? I never want to feel that way again. It’s unbearable. I just want things to stay the way they are and keep a safe distance. I don’t want to get too entangled. I don’t want to get too close and complicate things. I’ve seen people marry and divorce and it’s been a mess. I’ve seen no positive examples of why I should get married. It’s only a piece of paper. What is it worth?

The mind is now creating a reality based on other people’s experiences, things that you’ve witnessed, that have now become a potential theme or plot in your life. When the heart hasn’t healed from a past trauma, it will try protecting itself at all costs, rationalizing a million reasons why it’s unsafe to trust again. The heart is saying, “here – feel this, don’t you remember? How can you risk taking a chance of getting hurt again? We still haven’t healed from the last time.”

It’s important to pay attention to what needs healing, and consider whether a decision can help you heal or whether it feels unhealthy for you in any way at this time.

Step Three: Remember you create your future – that means even if the decision you make doesn’t end up being everything you hoped it would lead to, you still have the ability to create something positive from it with your perspective, will and wisdom!

When the mind stays on the present, it can regain clarity. The mind can wipe away the fears of the future, and the pain of the past and stand free in the present moment. Here it can ask itself: how do I really feel right now? Notice what your body feels like. Is it tense? Excited? Tight? Do you feel dread or nervous excitement? Notice your thoughts in the present: are they positive or are you feeling apprehension? Once you’re aware of how you really feel right now, then you can imagine the future you’d like to create based on the decision you’re about to make. You’ll feel empowered instead of like you’re playing the lottery.

For those who have experienced a lot of stress in life due to decisions that didn’t turn out the way they’d hoped in the past, or unforeseen events shocking them, decision making can still feel like a scary gamble. As one client’s father shared with us from heaven: “sometimes you have to take a risk in life and love – and with big risks can come big payoffs.”

Practice bringing yourself into the present moment before making any major decision, and you may experience less stress and more confidence as you’re able to hear your own intuition clearer.

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