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Inspiration for inner peace and love by Lauralyn, a yoga and angel therapist.

Does Love Want A Witness?

May 12th, 2010

You can meditate, be a yogi, experience what it means to feel love from within and yet still feel sad or lonely when not in a relationship. Why is this? Does it mean our spiritual core isn’t strong enough? Do we not love ourselves enough to be completely satisfied just living on self-love alone?

I’ve been exploring this experience and realize the thing about love is you want to share it. In fact, the more you love yourself and realize just how liberating that feeling is, the more you want to experience this kind of healthy love with another human being. Sure, you can give love in a hug, a handshake, even through a kind smile. You can radiate and beam like a love microwave everywhere you go, sending rays to friends, family and at work. But it’s within the little microcosm of intimate relationships where love tests the depths of your capacity to give freely, and where the sharing of this powerful healing emotion can lift you up to new heights.

The traditional marriage requires a “witness” of the vows. Why do we need this? Would a couple’s love for one another not be believed or validated without being watched? Or is it just symbolic for the fact that we all want a witness to see our ability to love and our worthiness to be loved? Do we want a witness – whether a friend at the alter or a significant other – to see just how special our love is? Do we all need to be reminded that love is real, not just a fairy tale, and do we feel it’s only real when it’s witnessed by a fellow human being? Maybe sometimes we can’t even fathom the depths of our own love, and having a witness helps us process it, helps us feel less scared or alone when experiencing those deeper, revealing layers of who we really are, and how we really feel.

Maybe we do need a witness to remind us all how magical and powerful love is.

Or maybe we just all want to be seen. We want to share our experience with another soul, and ground that love with a promise ring, a house or family. We want to be able to plant the seeds of love and watch them grow into more opportunities to experience, share and celebrate love.

Maybe those of us who want this “love garden” feel, with all the beauty and healing of our self-love, that without a partner to share in the experience we’re left with seeds in our hands without soil to plant them.

So what does the self-lover do while waiting for that moment in time when their path crosses their significant other? Keep nurturing, and growing, your own garden. Self-love is a process, not a goal. Loving your imperfections, accepting your limitations, changing what you can and want to, and cultivating mind/body awareness should keep you pretty busy, not just while you’re single, but for the rest of your life. So you mind’s well use the extra time to yourself to enjoy and learn, it will give you even more love reserves to share with your future honey.

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