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Visions of Love with Tom King, Marriage and Business Coach

March 22nd, 2010

What does the word Love mean to you?

There are many different kinds of love but all have in common warm affection, goodwill, and positive regard for another. Love is one of the primary purposes of life, if not the primary purpose. Love means supporting the best and the wholeness of the one you love.

Have you ever felt like love was missing from your life? (How do you handle these periods of time?)

I cannot remember ever feeling that love was completely missing from my life. I have felt that love was withheld from me by those I love and that is painful. I have found myself responding by also withholding love which of course makes it worse. When I eventually choose to be present and accepting of the person and situation a resolution surfaces and love finds a way to move forward towards reconciliation.

What is the biggest way you see that love (or the lack thereof) has impacted our world today?

I see indications of a wide spectrum of development levels on our journey to learn how to love. On the one hand, there is as much greed and disregard for one another and for life in general as there has ever been. The movie Avatar is a stirring picture of logical outcome of staying on that course. On the other hand, there are more and more people openly seeking, finding, and sharing a deeper sense of spirituality. Love is at the center of this collective spiritual evolution, which I believe will prevail and lead to stewardship for all.

What is the last extraordinary book you read and what impact did it have on you?

I am currently reading Conscious Loving by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. The authors do a great job of describing the learning journey to having healthy co-committed relationships. This has helped me better appreciate the exponential power of loving relationships.

From your perspective, what is the most practical way to bring more love into the world?

Love is learned through relationships. Promoting the health of relationships and teaching people to work through emotional barriers is the most direct way to bring more love into the world. I think marriage and family relationships in particular offer outstanding opportunities to learn and grow in capacity to love.

Is there a connection between love and inspiration? Who in your lifetime has inspired you the most?

The most inspirational people to me are those who demonstrate love through service. There are many who inspire me, from the service of former President Jimmy Carter, to the generosity of my wife and my daughters. My father also inspired me through his example of humble and unconditional love for the people in his life.

How do you incorporate love into your business or professional life?

I believe it is important to love and appreciate clients for who they are. I do relationship coaching and help people work through barriers and improve skills that increase intimacy and relationship maturity.

Tom King
www.growitforward.com